New research reveals that nearly three quarters (73%) of singles over the age of 50 say they’re “more active and social than ever before” - with music, movement and letting their hair down high on the agenda. In fact, over half (54%) say they still enjoy partying.
The study by Ourtime, dating app for over-50s, found that this ‘Generation X-perience’ is using their heady hobbies as a way to meet new people - for both companionship (63%) and romance (35%). While the majority (88%) believe mutual interests are the key to sparking meaningful relationships: making hobbies the modern matchmaker.
In fact, nearly half (47%) of singles over 50 now prioritise companionship first, with the hope it will naturally blossom into a committed relationship.
“Today’s 50+ singles know the real value of shared passions”, says Ourtime’s dating expert Kate Taylor. “Our hobbies and interests are a huge part of what makes us interesting and lovable. Finding a partner who shares those passions helps us feel seen and appreciated. It also gives us endless fodder for conversations. Whether it’s dancing, gigging, or even raving, couples who play together tend to stay together - and never run out of date ideas”.
“Daters in their 50s aren’t chasing surface level attraction. They're looking for true companionship with substance. Friendship-first dating allows for genuine conversations without pressure, builds trust organically, and leads to shared memorable experiences – all while doing things they genuinely enjoy. And with dating apps like Ourtime offering tools to match based on interests, it’s never been easier to meet like-minded singles who are also looking for a deeper, more fulfilling connection.”
Ourtime dating expert Kate Taylor’s top tips for friendship-first dating:
1. Mention *sociable* hobbies on your dating profile
Many people love solitary hobbies - but a great way to list these is by putting a sociable spin on them. For example, if you like reading, say you love exploring book shops. Love sport? Mention that you enjoy watching live events. This works to turn them into great date ideas. Ourtime, the dating app dedicated to singles over 50, lets you list your hobbies on your profile, making it easy to connect with people who share your interests.
2) Have an open mind about your date’s hobbies
Don’t totally write someone off because their profile says they love wild-swimming, but you’re strictly the hot-tub type (for example). Stay curious and ask them questions. After all, their passion might spark a new interest for you and they’ll appreciate your interest.
3) Follow your heart
Not sure what your hobbies are, or want new ones? Follow your heart. If you love The Great Pottery Throwdown, investigate a local pottery class. If you enjoyed art at school, join a local painting group. Ourtime hosts regular live events where you can partake in fun activities with other singles. Meeting like-minded people boosts your confidence, which will help when you go out on dates.
4) Suggest a date around your shared interests
Tailoring your date to your mutual interests is charming and shows that you’re paying attention. For example, if you’re both dog owners, suggest meeting in a nearby dog-friendly café.
5) Be authentic
We’ve all been tempted to fill our profiles full of exciting past-times like mountain-climbing, but if you want to meet the perfect partner for you, it pays to be honest. Do you really want to date someone who will drag you up Everest? Or would you prefer someone who’ll duet your favourite songs with you at karaoke? Stay true to you and what you love.